Our kid doesn’t like us right now. Let me bring you up to speed. Recently, we changed her bed time from 8:30 pm to 7:00 pm and she’s not been the happiest of campers since. She doesn’t care that she’s able to get up earlier with less grogginess. She wants to go to bed at midnight just because that’s what she desires to do. She has a full on temper tantrum every night at 6:58 pm when we mention it’s bedtime. When she does this, I must admit that it’s hard to establish discipline. To do what has to be done, when it has to be done, the best it can be done at all times is rough, especially when it has to be accomplished with someone who doesn’t understand why.
Discipline is a hard concept to follow sometimes because the desires for the struggle to subside or be over outweigh the will to actually accomplish it. For me, I usually fail at discipline when I reach a certain weight that is lower than I have ever been but still too far away for it to be the proper amount for optimal health. It never fails that when I get to a certain milestone my discipline goes out the window. I think of myself as successful to the point where I don’t need the same discipline and then I fall right back into old patterns. Like my kid, I throw temper tantrums when the scale doesn’t budge. Like my kid, I don’t want to do what it takes, when it has to be done the best that I can do it all the time simply because my desire for chocolate or watermelon (not necessarily the best food for an insulin resistant woman) or to not move off the couch outweighs the results that I want (i.e. healthier body, better look, higher libido, more energy, etc.) or think I should have at this age.
Discipline, as defined above on number four, is why I have a hard time with transforming myself for long periods of time. Discipline requires a change of mind or character and I’m not sure if that is a result I have even thought about in my quest for change. I’m so good at just doing that I didn’t think about how it is to change my mind. To some, it’s almost like “duh lady” but to me, I think I’m so excited about the change that is to occur that I don’t stop to realize that is supposed to change me mentally as well. Having the discipline to change one’s mind is no small feat and it could be the fear that is holding people like myself back from actually making the change they need for success.
I have to get to this point sooner rather than later. I have to set my mind to understanding that I have to do what needs to be done. Even when it’s not what I want to do. Even if it’s when I don’t want to do it. Even if my thoughts are not the best with regards to doing what needs to be done, I still need to do it.
Until next time, I encourage you to be more resilient in whatever discipline you’re needing to stand strong. Think about what is lacking in your mental fortitude that is allowing you to waiver. Is it something you can fix? Is it something you can change? Is it something you are willingly allowing in your life? Find out what it is and change it. Redirect your thoughts and train them to be positive and trusting of the end result regardless of what feelings may be mounting. It’s what champions do all the time. It’s what people who successfully lose weight and maintains the loss do daily. It’s what parents of a screaming four year old kid do every night at 7:00 pm. We do what needs to be done even if we don’t want to do it. Now I’ve just got to apply that to the rest of my life.